Episode 69 – How to become a better, stronger version of yourself. The benefits of being Built to Lead.

What’s your CHIEF desire?

Sex? Money? Fame? Nope…not even close.

I agree with Ralph Waldo Emerson:

Our chief want in life is someone who will make us do what we can. (Tweet This)

So now the bigger question…what CAN you do?

Without a doubt, I know you CAN be a better and stronger version of yourself. You’re soft. And you’re playing too safe and too small. I know you’re not putting in your best effort. I know you default toward laziness, cutting the corners, and mediocrity.


Because I know what’s inside me…and I know what’s inside you. Last time I checked it’s called human nature. Our default has always been self-preservation. When we were being chased by lions in the jungle this was a good thing. But today our threats don’t have four legs and razor sharp teeth.

Today our threats look like complacency, settling, consuming, chronic pain, and going through the motions.


How do we wake up to the better version inside ourselves?

Two words: TRUTH TELLER.

You need one and so do I. Providentially, in 2001 I met a TRUTH TELLER who called me out and shut me up. He leaned into me and forced me to look at my own blindspots.

Chet Scott of Built to Lead, coached me through a powerful process that literally shifted my entire life. I realized by numbing my pain I was also numbing my potential. Sure the experience wasn’t always fun. But by inviting acute pain, I overcame a life of chronic pain. And in the process, I discovered my purpose…IGNITING SOULS.

The majority of people invest more time designing a 2-week vacation, than designing their entire lives. But without a plan, we coast through life, feeling lost and directionless. The result? We’re dead….we just haven’t made it official. It’s easy to ignore these costs.

But according to Swiss Psychologist Carl Jung:

The most damaging thing in the life of child, is the unlived life of the parent.

Your perspective matters because you don’t see things the way they are, but the way you are. If you feel defeated, discouraged, and disengaged…the world reflects a similar image right back at you. And although you were meant for more, the world isn’t going to hand you your purpose on a silver platter. It’s your responsibility to become a master in the art of living:

Master in the art of living: Someone who draws no sharp distinction between work and play; labor and leisure; mind and body; education and recreation. They hardly knows which is which. They simply pursues their vision of excellence through whatever they’re doing, and leave others to determine whether they’re working or playing. To themselves, they always appears to be doing both.

In episode 69, I set up the interview with Chet. I talk about the benefits of becoming Built to Lead. Then, for the next 30 minutes, I ask Chet to let it rip. It’s not sexy. It’s not polished or plastic. It’s the real “steak and potatoes” of what it takes to become a high performer.

I believe in you.

I know it’s time you became a better version of yourself. And here’s a little secret. Our loved ones love us—don’t get me wrong. But they wish we could become better versions of ourselves too.


Because they’re waiting for someone to show them the way. They want you to help them become better. But they don’t want to hear it…they want to see it. And your transformation will wake them up to the idea of their own transformation.

So what are you waiting for? Get busy building…yourself!


QUESTION: Do you think people want to hear the truth?

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About The Author

Kary Oberbrunner

KARY OBERBRUNNER is a Wall Street Journal and USA Today Best-Selling Author and CEO of Igniting Souls Publishing Agency, a global company that runs on EOS. Its core focus is helping people write, publish, and market their books the right way and turn them into 18 streams of income. He’s an award-winning author of ten books, a screenwriter, and he’s been featured in Entrepreneur, CBS, Fox News, Yahoo, and many other major media outlets. As a young man, he suffered from severe stuttering, depression, and self-injury. Today a transformed man, Kary ignites souls. As an international speaker, he loves topics that capture his heart and mind such as: leadership, personal growth, human performance, blockchain technology, and entrepreneurship. As a futurist and host of the Blockchain Life podcast, he often consults on marketing, branding, IP, and NFTs. He has several earned degrees including a Bachelor of Arts, Masters in Divinity, and Doctorate in Transformational Leadership. He lives in Ohio with his family.

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