How to Take Back Control of your Life

Time to face the facts.

You’re not immortal. And you’re not getting younger.
You don’t even know where to find the fountain of youth.

Personally, I could care less if such a place exists.

I have more energy, margin, and passion than ever before.
And I don’t even consume caffeine, energy drinks, or reality TV.

So what’s my secret…

The past 5 years I’ve studied how to sustain high performance in work and life.
I’ve integrated these truths and discovered a formula that works for me.

After all, if your mission is to change the world, you can’t get sidelined from burnout, fatigue, or moral failure. In this episode I share exactly what I do on a daily basis.

Everyone has the same 24 hours. The difference is how we use them.
Are you ready to discover how to sustain high performance?

Your competition doesn’t want you listen.
They don’t want you to level up.
It’s your Life. It’s your Call.

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 A copy of my OPUS (which I reference in this episode.)  

QUESTION: Do you think high performance is necessary for people with large visions?

(Please comment below. I’d love to hear your thoughts. And if you know someone who needs to read this, please encourage them by sharing this post) 

I believe you have what it takes. You may just not have the tools…at least not yet. Click here or on the pic below. See yourself through new eyes and begin creating the life you want.

Your passions are not random or accidental.

Rather, they’re indicators, leaving clues about your divine destiny. So many people are lost and directionless. They go from person to person hoping a stranger can tell them which way to go.

As long as you’re disconnected from your heart, you’ll never know which way to go.

Rather than running from his passions, throughout Dan Miller’s life, he’s run toward them. This raises questions with many people:

• Does God want us to be happy?
• Should we enjoy our lives and pursue our hobbies?

Through an entertaining chat, with fast cars as a filter, I sit down with bestselling author Dan Miller and ask him key questions related to life and business. We unpack how:

Success doesn’t ruin you; it reveals you. (Click to Tweet or Share on FB)

In this episode we dive into topics like:

• How to avoid spoiling your kids and  teach them entrepreneurship and ownership instead.
• How to study your spouse and create shared connections.
• How to start your business small and lay a foundation for bigger impact. 
• How your view of yourself and God sets you up for success or sabotages your story before you even begin. 

In this episode, realize what it means to become a Soul on Fire as you realize all of life is connected. What you believe about one thing impacts what you believe about everything.

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QUESTION: What do you enjoy most about your life?

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I believe you have what it takes. You may just not have the tools…at least not yet. Click on the pic below to discover how to get busy living. See yourself through new eyes and begin creating the life you want.

 

A master in the art of living…simply pursues his vision of excellence through whatever he is doing, and leaves others to determine whether he is working or playing. To himself, he always appears to be doing both. —L.P. Jacks

Is your life defined by “duty”?

In 2009, on a Friday morning, I met my friend Chet Scott at a local Panera.

“Why are you so happy?” I asked. Chet’s glowing smile needed an explanation.

“Oh, nothing much,” he replied with sincerity. “I guess I’m just content.”

Content? Now there’s a word you don’t hear much, I thought.

“Tell me, Chet, why are you so content?” I joked back—sort of.

Truth is, at that point in my life I secretly wanted to know his secret.

“Well . . . I guess I’m just at a place in life where I don’t have to be anywhere I don’t want to be,” he stated.

I let his words sink in for ten seconds, then blurted out, “What planet are you living on? What do you mean you don’t have to be anywhere?”

Despite my tone, I knew exactly what he meant. Chet spoke authentically of a freedom few people ever find. Six years prior, he’d left his day job and entered his dream job. Since then he had created a life of freedom. He only worked with his “ideal” clients and he had the bandwidth to read, write, and exercise.

His life seemed . . . light. Not easy, but light.

Me, on the other hand? I lived on a different planet. Maybe even in a different solar system.  My life seemed like one big duty.

Is your life defined by “desire”?

I’m not going to sugar-coat the truth. It wasn’t a easy process. The transition from a life of DUTY to a life of DESIRE took effort. Chet showed me how to author my OPUS. Slowly, everything changed. I went from STUCK to a SOUL ON FIRE.

Although the journey never ends, my clarity gave me the confidence I needed to make tough decisions. I realigned my entire life. Today my days aren’t pain-free, but they are truly unbelievable. I have:

• A gracious God
• A loving family
• A dream job

I don’t HAVE TO do anything any longer. Instead, I get to IGNITE SOULS—full-time.

You can become a Master in the Art of Living too

When you experience this type of transformation you can’t keep quiet. To do so would be unkind and criminal. Although some won’t listen, I still have to try. I want to wake-up others who are sleepwalking though life—just like I was.

True, few people are willing to admit their lives contain HAVE TO’s. Most would rather pretend they’re the ones in control. But if you’re brave enough to unplug from the MATRIX and bold enough take off the MASK then you may want to check out the FREE resource below.

Life didn’t change until I did. Become a Master in the Art of Living.

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QUESTION: What’s your favorite line in the L.P. Jacks quote at the top of the post?

(Please comment below. I’d love to hear your thoughts. And if you know someone who needs to read this, please encourage them by sharing this post) 

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In this episode I take a deep dive into the Living Forward phenomenon via an exclusive chat with authors Michael Hyatt and Daniel Harkavy.

Living Forward starts out by addressing THE DRIFT.

The DRIFT is the tendency to arrive at destinations you don’t consciously choose. The DRIFT is facing life in a reactive way and happens when you’re:

1. Unaware
2. Distracted
3. Overwhelmed
4. Deceived

No one wakes up and says:

“Today I want to DRIFT.”

However, if you’re not living a life according to design, then you’re living a life according to DRIFT.

So how do you change direction and snap out of the DRIFT? Michael Hyatt and Daniel Harkavy reveal that the average person spends 5 hours researching and shopping for a new car. The average bride-to-be spends 40 days planning a three-hour wedding. However, the average person never spends 1 day planning his or her life.

Why?

The reality is most of us don’t know how to plan our lives. Besides, it sounds daunting and out of reach.

“People who’ve lost their way are people who’ve lost their why.” (Click to Tweet)

Thankfully, Hyatt and Harkavy close the distance by demonstrating how to do a life plan. Even better, they provide examples of real Life Plans from real clients. These individuals come from a variety of backgrounds and life stages so readers of all kinds can relate.

The book is broken into 3 main parts:

1. Understand Your Need
2. Create Your Plan
3. Make it Happen.

It literally walks you though the Life Plan process in a step-by-step fashion. The Life Plan is facing life in a proactive way.

As you read this book you’ll answer 3 powerful questions:

1. How do I want to be remembered? This is your legacy.
2. What matters most to me? These are your priorities.
3. How do I get from where I am to where I want to be? This is your action plan.

Design your own “Regret Free” life by crafting your Life Plan.

• The Life Plan creates clarity. It acts as a GPS.
• The Life Plan creates courage. It acts as a filter.
• The Life Plan creates commitment. It acts as a motivator.

Page 154 says it all, “This may sound grandiose, but we are out to change the world.”

In Living Forward authors Hyatt and Harkavy do just that. They change the world one person at a time by challenging readers to create greatness one life plan at a time.

Living Forward is a fantastic tool to design the life you want and then clarify the steps you need to take to get there.

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QUESTION: What’s one thing you’re looking forward to?

(Please comment below. I’d love to hear your thoughts. And if you know someone who needs to read this, please encourage them by sharing this post) 

Are you getting the results you desire? If not, click on the pic below to discover how to begin creating the life you want.

If part of your Life Plan includes a writing a book someday, be sure to access these FREE tools immediately. 

They’re called DREAM KILLERS.

They never hunt down average or ordinary. They set their sights on taking down exceptional and extraordinary. But unless you know who these killers are they’ll bury you and your dream.

You’ve rattled their cage. Isn’t it time you ripped off their mask?

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QUESTION: What are some Dream Killers you’ve encountered? 

(Please comment below. I’d love to hear your thoughts. And if you know someone who needs to read this, please encourage them by sharing this post) 

Click on the pic below to receive your FREE Dream Killer resources (audio+ video+ PDF). Begin creating the life you want.

Margins Create Space for…

1. Laughter: You can’t laugh if everything is serious.
2. Generosity: You can’t give if you have nothing left.
3. Memories: You can’t remember if you weren’t present.
4. Prayer: You can’t pray if you’re self-sufficient.
5. Dreams: You can’t dream if you can’t imagine.
6. Love: You can’t love if you’re self-absorbed.
7. Exercise: You can’t exercise if you don’t value yourself.
8. Creativity: You can’t create if you’re merely a machine.
9. Experimentation: You can’t experiment if you don’t have time to fail.
10. Reflection: You can’t reflect if you don’t value rest.
11. Spontaneity: You can’t be in the moment if you’re stuck in the future.
12. Rest: You can’t sit if you can’t stop.
13. Joy: You can’t pour out if you haven’t been filled up.
14. Peace: You can’t breathe deeply if you can’t catch your breath. (Tweet This)
15. Friendships: You can’t expect to have friends if you fail to be one.

You can’t survive without food, water, or sleep. (College students might disagree with the sleep part.) Yet many people believe you can survive and even thrive without margins. Your Designer seemed to think otherwise by gifting you one full day of rest and recreation every seven.

The price of a life without margin

Have you ever tried reading something without margins? I have. Not fun. I remember back in graduate school, before the days of e-books. For one of my classes I occasionally photocopied a few pages from a massive 20 pound reference book. I’d shrink the text to fit the oversized page onto an 8½ by 11 inch piece of paper.

When my photocopies came out, I struggled trying to read the small font that ran off the edges of the page. In no time at all, my eyes would jump lines and I’d end up losing my place. Frustration would set in and the entire process proved unenjoyable at best.

This describes the majority of us perfectly.  We keep trying to squeeze more into our schedules. Without any edges, we struggle and lose our place in life. Frustration sets in and our lives are unenjoyable at best, hardly a picture of fulfillment.

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QUESTION: What other things do people miss when they don’t have margins in their lives? 

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If you want true fulfillment you must discover how to bring margin back into your life. In the Deeper Path Coaching Cohort I teach my clients exactly how to do this.

Check out this FREE resource to get you started. It will help you add 10 hours back to your week, every week, for the rest of your life.

What separates losers from winners is many times just a subtle shift in strategy. Go from blindspot to sweet spot in 30 seconds by eliminating a simple, but fatal flaw.

You’ve probably been taught a lie…

…that memory works only one direction—backward. We often refer to memory this way. We talk about “remembering” things in our past.

* Who we choose.

* What we ate.

* When we left.

* Where we went.

* Why we acted.

But what if memory worked two directions—backward AND forward? The latest in brain science has much to say on this topic:

Imagining the future, for example, involves many of the same brain areas as remembering the past. Your brain activates the hippocampus and medial temporal lobe for all mental time travel – both when you visit the past and go back to the future.

What if you knew how to “remember your future?” How would that shape you personally and professionally? In this episode, discover not only HOW to remember your future, but also WHY using this skill will catapult your business.

You can’t afford NOT to use this powerful mental faculty.

Oftentimes the only acceptable emotions for men are laughter or anger. We’re taught from a young age not to cry. In this episode, I share a fresh story about crying for the first time on stage…EVER…this past weekend at the Igniting Souls Conference.

I think the story will help you rethink the way you do business and life. I hope it will also equip you to take steps forward into deeper levels of authenticity and courage. Ultimately, I pray it pushes you closer to becoming a soul on fire.